It’s normal for every relationship to have some degree of conflict.
Though every couple goes through relationship challenges, psychological research suggests there are some hurdles that can ruin your relationship for good.
Business Insider compiled a list of 11 research-backed signs that your relationship is headed toward a downward spiral.
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Every romantic relationship goes through ups and downs. Even if you just had a massive fight about who stained the living-room couch with coffee (we know: It wasn’t you), it’s not the end of the world.
However, certain behavior patterns can weaken a partnership over time, leaving one or both people wanting out.
Psychological literature is rife with examples of such behaviors, including avoiding new experiences, not being honest about finances, or even texting too often. Noticing one or more of these patterns in your relationship doesn’t necessarily mean you’re headed for a breakup, but you should hash it out with your partner as soon as you can. Use this opportunity to take a step back and see what you can do to not only work it out, but also strengthen your couple bond.
Here are 11 relationship hurdles that can ruin your romantic relationship for good.
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Distancing yourself from your partner
A 2016 study, published in the journal “Couple and Family Psychology: Research and Practice,” found there’s a deadly combination of characteristics that predict relationship dissatisfaction: sensitivity to rejection and the tendency to cut your partner off emotionally.
People who are really worried about getting hurt might distance themselves from their partners, which ends up making the relationship less satisfying in the long run. In other words, they effectively create what they fear.
If this sounds like you, try telling your partner about your fears. You might be surprised to learn that they share some of those concerns, and you can work through them together.
Closing yourself off to new experiences
A growing body of research suggests that couples who try new things together are happier in their relationship.
The inverse might be true, too: Writing in Psychology Today, clinical psychologist Lisa Firestone says when you stop being open to developing shared new interests, it can hurt the relationship and create resentment between partners.
So take up your partner’s offer to try a new restaurant or go hiking instead of spending Saturday at the movies — at least once in a while.
Hiding your finances
In one 2018 poll for the National Endowment for Financial Education, 44% of adults said they’ve lied to their partner about money (financial infidelity), which can lead to fights, distrust, and in some cases divorce.
The problem is that money isn’t just about numbers — it can symbolize power and love. So insecurity about what your partner’s doing with his or her money means insecurity about the relationship in general.
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Source:: Businessinsider – Life