Ask Amy: I found out something, and I don’t know if I can trust my new husband

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been building a house. We signed a contract after returning from our honeymoon.

Amy Dickinson 

I make a quarter of what he makes (in the nonprofit sector), and I have lived frugally in hopes of having my own home someday.

My husband owns his own home, so he’s bringing the equity from the sale of that home to the purchase of our new house.

I have cash assets, and we agreed that I would bring 25 percent of the cost of the new home to the table.

Additionally, he wants me to front his portion of our new house ($130,000) until his house sells, and then he will pay me back.

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Normally, I would do this without blinking an eye, but my husband revealed something about his character that filled me with distrust.

His father sent us a Christmas check as a gift. According to instructions in the card, each of us was to receive $100. My husband never gave me the portion that was allocated to me.

I mustered up the courage to ask him about it, but he brushed it off.

This seems like a small thing, but it has bigger implications.

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Amy, what happens if I lend him $130,000 and he doesn’t pay me back? This is a large portion of my retirement savings.

I feel like a jerk asking him to sign a promissory note, but I feel I can’t front him this money without having him sign one first.

Am I justified in asking him to sign this note? He’s pushing for the loan.

A realtor has told us that he should ask for seller possession after close, so we can stay in his house until ours is ready — and directly bring his cash from the sale to the new house’s closing.

Southern Bride

Dear Bride: Your husband’s choice to withhold that $100 definitely has longer-term consequences.

You should pursue getting a legal post-nup agreement, outlining the details of this home deal and clarifying other financial matters.

In my view, you shouldn’t loan him such a large sum, but should take your realtor’s advice to put his money from the sale directly …read more

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