DEAR MISS MANNERS: I love to cook and bake, and am told I’m quite good at it. My husband, who means well but is completely oblivious to common sense, found out that a friend of his was getting rid of her stove and buying a new one.
That she might be getting rid of it because it’s a complete junker didn’t occur to him. I came home from work to find that he had surprised me by replacing my perfectly fine stove with the stove his friend had gotten rid of.
I don’t know why he thought I needed a new stove when I liked the old one. The new one is horrible. The oven has only two settings: too hot (things burn on the outside and are still underdone on the inside) and too cold (things don’t finish baking). None of the burners fits right and they all tilt, which means that it is impossible to cook evenly on the stovetop.
Miss Manners: I work hard to support my husband, and then his sister does this
Miss Manners: They tell each other secrets when I’m standing right there
Miss Manners: Her baby registry is full of inappropriate items
Miss Manners: I called because of their dead pet and I got blasted
Miss Manners: Is it rude to ask for a body part once a loved one is dead?
After only a month, I’ve come to hate cooking, and dread going into the kitchen to try to make a salvageable meal on that piece of garbage.
Obviously the solution is for me to buy a new stove for myself, which I’m going to do, annoyed though I am at having to spend the money.
How do I do so in such a way that I don’t convey to my husband that I hated his gift? Do I need to wait a certain amount of time?
What do I say if he asks me why I bought a new stove so soon after he gave me one? Do I raise the subject, and if so how, or do I just quietly replace it and hope he doesn’t say anything?
GENTLE READER: There is a difference between the surprise element that comes with a personal present and that of a major shared household item.
Miss Manners gives you her permission to replace the oven openly, telling your husband, “I can see why Mandy got a new stove. I am afraid that this one was on its last legs, and we’ll have to get a new one.” She further suggests that you take this opportunity to request that …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Entertainment